“Umntwana onelanga nowonwabileyo ngumntwana okwaziyo ukuzimela.Yena (yena) uyakwazi ukujamelana nazo zonke iintlobo zobunzima ebomini aze azifumanele eyakhe indawo eluntwini.”Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana onelanga ngokwengqondo kwaye uhlala kude nobumnyama??Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, siqokelele uthotho lweengcebiso ezisebenza kakhulu ezivela kwiingcali ezininzi eziphezulu zabazali ukuya kubazali.
1. Ukuqeqesha abantwana ukuba babe bodwa
Iingcali zengqondo zithi ukuziva unqabisekile akusiyo imvakalelo yokuxhomekeka.Ukuba umntwana ufuna unxibelelwano olufudumeleyo noluzinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo, ukwafanele afunde ukuba yedwa, njengokumyeka ahlale yedwa kwigumbi elikhuselekileyo.
Ukuze azive enqabisekile, umntwana akuyomfuneko ukuba abazali babekho ngalo lonke ixesha.Nokuba akakuboni, uya kukwazi entliziyweni yakhe ukuba ukhona.Kwiimfuno ezahlukeneyo zabantwana, abantu abadala kufuneka "baphendule" kunokuba "banelise" yonke into.
2. Yanelisa abantwana ukusa kumlinganiselo othile
Kuyimfuneko ukuseta imida ethile ngokwendalo, kwaye iimfuno zabantwana azikwazi ukufezekiswa ngaphandle kwemiqathango.Enye imfuneko yolonwabo kukuba umntwana unokuthwala imiqobo engenakuphepheka kunye nokuphoxeka ebomini.
Kuphela xa umntwana eqonda ukuba ukufunyanwa kwento akuxhomekanga kumnqweno wakhe, kodwa kumandla akhe, unokufumana ukuzaliseka kwangaphakathi kunye nolonwabo.
Okukhona umntwana eyiqonda ngokukhawuleza le nyaniso, kokukhona uya kuncipha intlungu.Akufunekanga usoloko usanelisa iminqweno yomntwana wakho kwasekuqaleni.Into elungileyo onokuyenza kukulibazisa kancinci.Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana ulambile, unokumvumela ukuba alinde imizuzu embalwa.Musa ukunikezela kuzo zonke iimfuno zomntwana wakho.Ukugatya ezinye zezinto ezifunwa ngumntwana wakho kuya kumnceda abe noxolo lwengqondo.
Ukwamkela olu hlobo loqeqesho “lwenyaniso olunganelisiyo” entsatsheni kuya kwenza abantwana babe nonyamezelo olwaneleyo ngokwasengqondweni ukuze bajamelane nemiqobo kubomi bexesha elizayo.
3. Impatho ebandayo xa abantwana benomsindo
Xa umntwana enomsindo, indlela yokuqala kukuyijika ingqalelo yakhe aze afune indlela yokumenza aye kwigumbi lakhe ukuze abe nomsindo.Ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli, yena ngokwakhe uya kuthi cwaka ngokuthe ngcembe.
Isohlwayo esifanelekileyo, uze ulandele kude kube sekupheleni.Isicwangciso-qhinga sokuthi “hayi”: Endaweni yokuthi hayi urhabaxa, cacisa ukuba kutheni kungasebenzi.Kwanokuba umntwana akaqondi, unokuwuqonda umonde nentlonelo onayo ngaye.
Abazali bamele bavumelane omnye nomnye, yaye omnye akanakuthi ewe yaye omnye uhayi;ngoxa ukwalela enye into, mnike inkululeko yokwenza enye.
4. Makayenze
Mvumele umntwana enze oko anokukwenza kwangethuba, yaye uya kukhuthala ngakumbi ekwenzeni izinto kwixesha elizayo.Musa ukugqithisa izinto zomntwana, uthethela umntwana, wenzela umntwana izigqibo, ngaphambi kokuthatha uxanduva, unokucinga malunga nalo, mhlawumbi umntwana angayenza yedwa.
Yintoni ongayithethi: "Awunakuyenza, awukwazi ukuyenza le nto!"Vumela umntwana "azame into entsha".Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abadala bayakwalela umntwana ukuba enze into kuba “engayenzanga”.Ukuba izinto azikho yingozi, vumela umntwana wakho azizame.
Ixesha lokuposa: Jun-06-2023